Committing your heart to someone is a huge decision.If you choose poorly, you could suffer years of heartache or wind up abused or divorced.For example, I have never enjoyed washing dishes, and Ashley dislikes doing laundry.Therefore, we agreed that I would wash and fold our laundry and she would wash the dishes. Trust me, I know this desire didn’t come from me because I hate scrubbing dirty plates.They so dread marrying the wrong person that they do not marry at all.In the midst of these extremes, how can a single adult sensibly decide whom to marry?I entered the church that evening with God’s peace inspiring my steps.If you are dating someone seriously, how peaceful do you feel when you think about marrying that person?
Let me clarify that our marriage bond in Christ does not give Ashley and me some sort of spiritual voodoo. Yet as we respond to the desires that Jesus puts within our hearts, He leads us to love one another in the best manner. Joined together in Christ, Ashley and I share the same wish to glorify God, the same joys and sorrows, and the same Source of love—we are one (Ephesians -32).Therefore, He can help us love one another more deeply.Jesus can love Ashley by desiring to do so through me, sometimes without her having to say anything.When I have acted upon those urges, Ashley has often exclaimed, “How did you know what I needed?I never hinted or asked you to do those things.” I knew what Ashley needed because Christ motivated me.