I personally fell victim to this on a few occasions.
Try not to allow your relationship to cloud your judgment, this is one of the biggest triggers that leads to the most successful rates of self-injury and even worse, that of taking one’s own life due to a souring or breaking up of a relationship.
In the midst of full-blown mania or major depression, love may mean making tough decisions – perhaps closing bank or credit card accounts, limiting access to drugs or alcohol, or even having your loved one hospitalized against their will.
This is the tough love that nobody really likes to engage in, but it’s often the only course of action that helps manage the episode with the least possible collateral damage.
They can go with you to a support group like Depression Bipolar Support Alliance.
However, I could sort of relate to Bob’s description of how he responded and how he felt.
Love usually means putting your loved one’s needs before your own.
What your loved one needs when he or she is in a manic or depressed state and lacks the insight to realize what’s going on is your objective perspective, clear thinking, and assertive presence. It often feels like you just can’t keep going, but in the midst of their mental chaos you may need to continuously repeat your own internal mantra reminding you that it isn’t about you right now – it’s about your loved one. How did your loved one feel about your decision after fully recovering from the episode?
Please share your experiences of tough decisions that bipolar disorder has forced you to make in helping a loved one during a major mood episode. If you have bipolar disorder and a loved one stepped in to help, please share your experience and insights.
Did your loved one’s efforts help or make things worse?