Moving Towards an Exclusive Relationship Assuming the “let’s be exclusive” conversation hasn’t happened, I would recommend you start to slowly but intentionally determine if he feels your relationship is headed in that direction.Where does he see this relationship going, exactly?Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.They like having women contacting them…even if they are rejecting all of them as it makes them feel desirable.
He’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them.
While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.
With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.
Once you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, I recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period.
Try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him.