Too many women sell themselves short by settling for a man with an attractive exterior.A man who is overly concerned with himself and his material things has no room to value you. Just because a man is good-looking, wears a shiny new suit, sports some Now and Later gators, drives a shiny new car, and profiles a new Rolex on his wrist does not mean he is a good man.Instead of those flags just sitting there while you ignore them, let me wave a few of them for you. If your man wears more than one ring per hand, more than one bracelet per wrist, and more than one necklace per neck — RED FLAG. If he is always the one who’s overdressed for the occasion — RED FLAG. If your man is constantly spending money on you without regard to price (i.e., clothes, trips, jewelry) and he can’t afford it — RED FLAG. If your man constantly asks to “hold” some money or expect you to pay while on dates — RED FLAG. If he approaches you with a flattering, yet rehearsed line — RED FLAG. If he says he has a job but can’t articulate exactly what it is he does for a living— RED FLAG. If he talks about himself more than he inquires about you — RED FLAG.RELATED: 10 couples on TODAY's Plaza reveal their secrets to a strong relationship 1. RELATED: 3 couples take scientific tests to see if their love is true The Thrill of the Hunt Relationships will always frustrate you until you understand this very important concept: Men need to be challenged.Granted, I’d have to give the brother an “A” for style and originality, but when I said to her, “Wow, he must be paid! He’s living with his mother right now, but he just really likes me.” All I could think was, 'This fool must have fallen and bumped her head.
Women are often cautious of the infamous playas, but these are the men you want to keep close. Be patient because he will be more focused on getting to know you better than allowing you to get to know him. When you gain his trust, he will share more information than you ever cared to know. Most playas are proud of their tactics and are more than willing to hip you to the game.
He arms himself with charm, charisma, and a huge dose of confidence. Your goal is to understand the man you’re working with and to make good decisions once you’ve learned what you’ve got.
Many women get caught off guard because they expect him to be easily identifiable—tall, dark, and handsome with a body like LL Cool J. You can spot one by his charm that attempts to disarm. The sooner you acknowledge your zebra’s stripes, the quicker you can stop treating him like your prized black stallion.
You’re probably saying to yourself, I would never do such a thing, but I am willing to bet you’ve done it or you’re in the process of doing it right now.
Here are ten tips that will help you keep the hunt alive: One more attempt to drive this point home: Men are not content to acquire “the low-lying fruit.” A friend of mine once told me that “Men can have hundreds of suitable apples all around their feet, but they’re not happy unless they go for that big, shiny apple on the highest branch.” Always keep the hunter hunting.