This is an extension of the group approach and goes even further.With this approach an interested young man must first approach the young woman’s father and gain his approval to court or “woo” as they like to say his daughter.two single people of the opposite sex going out on “dates.” Dating might not have literally been forbidden but it might as well have been.Only after having done a lot of thing in group situations and in that context gotten to know each other was a couple allowed to pursue a relationship and do things one on one.In fact, their name “Sovereign Grace” implies they are Calvinistic/Reformed.The Reformed Doctrine is based on a strong emphasis on God’s Sovereignty.Conversely, if God hasn’t chosen to save them, there is nothing they can do to prevent that. Also, if it is God’s sovereign choice, wouldn’t a Godly environment have no affect on whether their children come to Christ or not?
The author of this online book indicates his requests for discussion with Harris went unanswered. Mahaney, Courtship, dating, home schooling, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Josh Harris, joshua harris, Robin Phillips, Sovereign Grace, Sovereign Grace Criticism, Sovereign Grace Ministries Posted in Courtship, dating, marriage | 10 Comments » toward evening; and he lifted up his eyes and looked, and behold, camels were coming.
Now that I have been blogging on this topic for a while I think it is more than appropriate that I define some terms, especially as they have been applied in Sovereign Grace which is the group Harris is a part of. It can be a casual date doing things as friends where a person dates different people to see what personality works best for them.
It could be a long drawn out thing with no intention of marriage. SG moved away from this early in their church history.
One well known Christian author, Dave Hunt, has a book titled “What Love Is This? How could a God we portray as having a father heart not at least afford all individuals an opportunity to be saved? A summary of the points are: whether Joshua Harris is a part of this courtship/betrothal movement he is critiquing in his book.
Note: I do not hold to or promote a Calvinistic viewpoint though I don’t consider myself to be what is the opposite of the spectrum, an Arminian. Though Phillips doesn’t seem to think Harris is, Phillips does state that “people might be inadvertently sucked into the wider courtship movement through Harris’ writings as a result of the semantic similarity.” Phillips also states “does present some disturbing parallels with the courtship movement, particularly in his emphasis on reaching a quality of character correctness before one is ready for marriage, and his rather mechanical approach to the operation of human emotions.” Overall a good book with quite an analysis of what is driving some groups to push toward courtship.