While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.
With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.
Gena says to avoid ‘xxx’s, meaningless numbers (or meaningful ones if it’s the number 69), anything like ‘sex’, ‘dirty’, ‘hot’, or equally ‘death’ and ‘rage’.
It’s a good list and you can read the full post here.
If this sounds like your situation, you’re not alone.
There is such a lot of conflicting advice out there on how to write your online dating profile.
And let's be honest, it is important to get it right.
Your username is the first thing someone will read. One random habit (nothing gross here people) or a funny fact can do the trick. Ryan Gos: I like to ride motorbikes fast and be filmed doing it.
So it is the most important to place to (a) sell yourself and (b) be yourself. A name is a good place to start but for the sake of online security, don’t use your full name. Of course, you can read euphemisms into everything but there comes a point where you just have to bite the bullet and write something down. If you’re finding it hard to pin down that clinching fact, ask a family friend. That way you will get a more honest reaction (and avoid awkward questions if you feel that is how they might react). Safer people will look at profiles with safer names.