Analyzing excerpts from Bernard and Bia’s essays will shed further light.Bia begins, “How can I explain to my mother…How can I tell her, without her thrilling to false hopes, that, having loved a man, having mated with a man, I know I could still?“OUT,” a leading pro-sodomy publication, gives its opinion of the previously mentioned book, Sister and Brother…a book about so-called “gay” men and “lesbian” woman sleeping together: “Compiled by two of our most noted cultural historians; this rich anthology ponders the inextricable and complex bond between lesbians and gay men.In 30 essays by writers both known and new, tales unfold of remarkable friendships that are sometimes adversarial, sometimes romantic, and more than occasionally, sexual.” The Lambda Book Report, a leading pro-sodomy publication gives its take: “In private, of course, the lives of many gay men and lesbians have always overlapped, as the stories collected in Sister and Brother attest…They have been allies at work, siblings in families, partners in community affairs, business, and parenting.Although Cooper becomes a practicing homosexual, his place, he tells us, remains forever with his friend Bia Lowe.” Note that The Advocate has no difficulty applying both the terms “heterosexual” and “homosexual” to Bernard Cooper.They understand and accept the fluidity of sexual desire.Sometimes, they have been husbands and wives, and occasionally lovers.” Another pro-sodomy publication, The New York Native, also endorses the book that highlights starkly the changeable nature of sexual desire.The New York Native begins its column on the Lambda Literary Awards with the following caption: “‘Sister and Brother’ sets the tone for seventh annual gay and lesbian book awards.” The column continues, “Inclusiveness was the theme of this year’s Lambda Literary Award winners.
although I have not been very open about that, and through out most of my life I‘ve gone out with blokes (men) because I haven’t been terribly comfortable about being a lesbian.
Similarly, an article appearing in The Advocate, about the now separated couple Ellen Degeneres and Anne Heche states, “Although the couple has never publicly discussed the reason for their break up, it has been heavily rumored that Heche decided to go back to heterosexuality.” The rumors turned out to be true. The Advocate tells of Heche shocking Oprah Winfrey by proclaiming, “I was not gay before I met her…” (Ellen).
This phenomenon causes the writer of the article to ask, “With straights falling for gays, lesbians dating men, and gay men falling in love with women, isn’t anybody anything anymore?
As the news of her sexual affair spread (and a former lesbian lover called to confirm the rumor), she “felt suddenly watched, judged.
While queers worried about hiding their sexualities in this homophobic little town, my concerns went the other way.